Inside Space or Inner World are my terms for the world we can experience inside ourselves. Let me know if you have a better term please. We largely neglect our inner lives. If we go into Inner Space deliberately it is often to enjoy a sexual fantasy or to think of an enjoyable event coming […]
We are able to heal ourselves in many ways. Some are obvious and can be explained. Others appear to be mystical or magical. I prefer to say that there are some innate abilities that we can’t easily explain. In my New York State practice a few local doctors sent patients with chronic illnesses such as […]
Our religious leaders tell us to love, but they rarely tell us how to love unconditionally. The mistake we make with love arises from the fact that we think of love as a finite commodity. The key to truly loving is to see love as an infinite thing. When we think of it as a […]
When a baby is fed and comfortable you can see her belly rising with each breath. She is open, trusting, capable of taking in love and very quickly giving love. In a blink of an eye, if the baby gets startled or hungry her breath gets shallow, or she pulls in a lot of air, […]
My breasts are too big. My penis is too small. First off: we are all allowed our taste. Just as a man might be attracted by large breasts a woman might be attracted to a large penis. If it’s a dealbreaker for some, live with it. What matters about the penis, any penis, is the […]
When I talk to a genuine Shaman, by which I mean one of two that I’ve met, their description of evil spirits correspond exactly with the description of undermining thinking that people with depression and anxiety experiencing within Inner Space (that world inside our being) are identical. They both engender unnecessary guilt and shame. What […]
Many Indigenous and non-Indigenous cultures have deep connections to ancestors. They believe that ancestors who love them are present in their lives in ways that feel immediate and present. Natural State Restoration builds on that capacity by allowing the idea that love is infinite. So much that if we’ve only experienced one instance of unconditional […]
I’ve been working with men sexually abused by their mothers and female caregivers for over thirty years, not a full time caseload but enough to know the issues that In my general practice these men almost to a person have suffered more damage than any other form of abuse. The vast majority have had a […]
In my career I have frequently helped with the damage that forgiveness – done too quickly – has done. Often this was done for religious reasons. Forgiveness needs to be a process that may or may not occur over time. Premature forgiveness can stop an adult or child from seeking legal redress. So the offender […]
Shame and guilt are only appropriate when it is about harm or boundary violations of others. When I have a client who tells me they experience shame and guilt I immediately do an assessment: have you killed anyone, have you injured anyone, have you had sex with someone who didn’t consent or couldn’t consent; have […]
